The Brutal Truth About Men, Love And Most Importantly – Monogamy. It’s About Time Young Women Of The World Were Honestly Told.
Fairytales Exist In Books, Not In Real Life.
Their stories are fine for young kids to spark the imagination, promote the learning of good and evil, and human emotions such as desire, love, and kindness. Their eternally unrealistic happy endings are a suitable ending to protect the very immature from feelings of fear and anxiety, a zero danger way of teaching important human lessons of life to the emotionally vulnerable.
When we censor our older children’s ( adolescents) stories to exclude the suffering that is inherent in the human condition, we isolate our young. We create a dangerous environment that promotes shame and a belief that they are not good enough because they cannot live up to the unrealistic standards in these stories.
Societies Cruelly KEEP Promoting Fairytale Love Stories To Adolescents
Unfortunately, in the modern world, most cultures can’t – or won’t – be honest and tell the (often) brutal truth of how it really is. This is particularly true in regard to men, love, and monogamy. False and unrealistic fairytales of ‘Everlasting True Love’ and of ‘Meeting the guy who will adore you and – only you- forever’ are perpetuated endlessly through social media. (We will explore the historical reasons for this shortly.)
In the experience of the authors, ( numerous, diverse professions, with decades of it…) the REAL facts of life are as follows:
The Brutal Truth About Men, Love And Most Importantly – Monogamy:
THE OBSERVED FACTS;
Humans are essentially NOT monogamous. It is the exception MORE than the rule.
Men, particularly – need sex with more than one partner – AT LEAST occasionally.
Women are more emotionally attached after sex. Most men can have sex with numerous women and have virtually zero emotional attachment to any of them.
Religion forces most people into unrealistic – unnatural relationships worldwide.
See any of the above ideas constantly forced down your throat on social media?? No. Quite the opposite.
Every human is individual and has different needs and desires. Obviously, for many the above ‘truths’ are NOT the case, and they can live happy contented lives within the boundaries of their society’s culture and ‘rules’.
For most, however, particularly men, the stated truths are just that, yet society’s culture and rules are totally at odds with these concepts.
Importantly the brutal ‘truths’ do not preclude the existence of true love, rather they suggest the unrealistic likelihood of it being everlasting and totally unique for each individual.
Much discussion already exists about the change in dynamics of ‘love’ in successful long-term relationships over time.
In most Christian-based societies the undeniable prevalence of hidden infidelity (‘cheating’) and large and ever-increasing divorce rates are a testament to the truth that lasting monogamy is an unwinnable uphill battle for most. The statistics of divorce rates, abortion, and births outside marriage don’t lie.
Scientifically – Humans Were Polygamous Until Society Pushed Them Into Monogamy For Practical Reasons.
It is largely agreed in scientific circles, that:
‘Naturally speaking, humans are believed to be polygamous (more than one partner) creatures up until society started establishing the practical needs to be monogamous. After all, almost all of the animals you see in the world are polygamous by nature. It only follows that we were naturally supposed to be polygamous from the start.’ [Read **Science Illustrated – The Origins Of Monogamy] and [***The Origins Of Monogamy – Relationships]
The historical reasons for encouraging total monogamy – ( the necessity for a permanent efficient workforce to remain stationary in agricultural societies***) are largely no longer present in modern-day society.
The laws and religion that were formed to follow suit – to give monogamy a more solid ground to stand on – are also now largely redundant.
Its benefits to the species (Father around for longer to help with offspring development until near maturity**) are able to be met by a series of shorter-term committed relationships ( not necessarily monogamous,) with laws providing that fathers must take care of their offspring until mature already present in nearly all society.
As a result of these large structural changes to society, the natural – polygamous nature of humans – is expressed more and more now in world societies as a matter of natural evolutionary change.
The BS And Damaging ‘Marry My Prince’ Message Is Overwhelming Flouted On Social Media Worldwide Now
The world has moved on from ancient civilization needs, communication – ( and control ) measures. Gone are the days of the uneducated masses totally believing everything they are told by filtered down decrees from those in power.
Social media rules now, yet its messages have not caught up with the age and technology, and are virtually unregulated or filtered.
The same BS ‘Marry my Prince’, ‘Everlasting True Love,’ ‘The Perfect Man is…blah blah…’ messages are overwhelmingly flouted throughout Facebook, Instagram, and online magazines. They’re forcibly pushed – often under the guise of religion – purely for commercial reasons, to sell weddings, attire and rings, valentine’s flowers, and expensive ‘Gifts’ for the ‘Trueloves’. It’s big big – massive – business on a global scale in every society with a mobile device now. The innocent uneducated idealists soak it up with stars in their eyes, totally unaware of the manipulation.
The old idea that a man is ‘no good’ if he even looks at another while he is committed to one is also pushed down the throats on every social platform – re-enforcing the already damaging emotions of jealousy and feelings of insecurity caused by the censored truth of reality.
Jealousy is a natural emotion, but it can be – and is – reinforced in modern society. Insecurity comes from expectations being shattered. Young girls are thrown in the deep end with no mechanisms to counter the brutal – diametrically opposite truth about men and relationships that they encounter. Even once their world and bubble is burst, which is the norm, not the exception – society largely tells them it’s just ‘their guy’ that’s different and wrong – they’re just ‘unlucky’ to get one who is outside the box. Meanwhile, the countries are running out of room to put all the empty boxes, and the mental health outlets are overflowing with jaded, depressed, broken, and often suicidal potential brides and young mothers.
Santa Claus, The Easter Bunny, And The Fairy Tale Marriage Idea
It’s about time young girls were told the truth about what most modern men are really like. The BS social media fairytale stories of ‘ never-ending true love’ – the guy that will look into girls’ eyes adoringly for eternity – needs to be thrown out at the same time with the existence of Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny. It had its use in early childhood education, now protection from the REAL world needs to come with the confrontation of the TRUTH upfront. Only then will young girls be prepared for real life and their ridiculous expectations not flattened – often with devastating consequences- by their first encounter with their ‘cheating prone’ prince.
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The Practical Way Of Solution – Family And Kids Need Protecting.
All that can be confidently said, is that it’s extremely complicated and difficult to find a one fits all solution to the puzzle of managing modern world societies with the truth exposed upfront. Family and kids – and the pushing of monogamy – are the backbone of most traditional societies, but its foundation is built on an unnatural lie with outdated motive.
It’s a massive call to upend the traditional ideas – but it’s already happening naturally worldwide.
An excellent start would to be upfront, and accept reality. Family and kids can still exist, and must – and society should pressure men to take responsibility to care for their offspring. ( It already does.) Rules of engagement need to be put in place, to prevent the inevitable dark-sided consequences of jealousy if it were just a ‘free love for all romp fest.’ Values taught such as a version of ‘Thou shalt not take another man’s wife’ – one of the Christian Ten Commandments – still have merit – and was no doubt decreed to prevent jealousy wars amongst the ancient masses. Men will be men and their desires are unstoppable – but they are civilized enough to enable being pointed in a direction other than their best friend’s wife or girlfriend. – ( mostly 🙄)
Largely instead of demonizing what society has morphed into naturally, it should be encouraged as normal and acceptable that men will want, and need other sex partners regularly or from time to time, depending on the individual. The same should go for women with such desires. It’s already happening – just look at all the guys – and girls – ( more so guys) who are secretly banging the girlfriend ‘on the side’ out there. They’re the brave – or reckless ones.
The only reason most monogamous men stay that way – is because they’re shit scared of getting caught – then balls cutoff and financial ruin, just for being 100% normal, and human.
The World’s Oldest Profession
It’s absurd that prostitution – the world’s oldest profession – is legalized in most countries whose societies demonize it. Its very existence in pretty much EVERY society is a hands-down “I rest my case” moment for the arguments of this article. Most society gives the confusing message ‘It’s ok – but don’t get caught! That’s divorce material! ‘ Really? Why?? In a realistic society where truth was told early, it probably wouldn’t be needed anywhere near to the extent it is now. That’s not to say there is anything wrong with it – there isn’t! Young female sex workers are probably the best informed and most resilient women in the world in terms of the truth about men.
Politically Incorrect As It Is – The Truth Is The Truth.
Imagine if girls were taught these truths. Politically incorrect as they are – the truth is the truth.
Yes love is real – but generally, intensely it will only last a short time (4-7 years on average), then the guy will most likely want to bang the next good-looking girl he sees on the street every single day. It’s sex – men seem to need and desire it more than women, generally.
Sure you can have kids and a family – men usually want that too – but it won’t be easy, and expect the guy by then to be needing someone else to satisfy him sexually. Not always, but it’s likely. He will look after you and the kids, that’s his duty by law, and he will probably still care for you a great deal, even though he may also be sleeping with another girl. Men can care for more than one woman at the same time. It’s no big deal to them. He might even have several families and be doing the same for all ( if he can afford it.)
There. A bit thin but that’s it.
Some societies are more aligned with the truth, But…
Some societies already condone much of what has been talked about. Unfortunately, most of them are riddled with even more ridiculous archaic religiously inspired dark age ‘rules.’ Think some Muslim societies where multiple wives are the norm, yet at the same time woman are treated as almost less than human. Hardcore religious ‘cults’ also exist even today where polygamy is the norm in the USA. Once again they come with unnatural hard-core religious ‘rules’ that often defy reason.
The Reality Is That Society Is Naturally Evolving Toward A More Polygamous Humanity
This stuff, men being men – is happening now all over the world. Many Asian societies have developed a very common ‘mistress culture’ where a ‘blind eye’ is turned by the wife largely to save face. Western societies haven’t really caught up – with more money brings more litigation – and total deception is more important to prevent that inevitable consequence.
The whole reason though, that such hatred and financial devastation occurs in so many breakups, comes back to the unrealistic expectations that have been cruelly nurtured in the formative minds of adolescent girls.
They were never told the truth, society and social media kept pushing the lie, then when the truth inevitably rears its ( now ugly ) head, the fantasy and dreams are shattered and revenge and payback sought.
If they had no such BS expectations in the first place, imagine the hordes of divorce lawyers lining up for food stamps. Shame for them perhaps, but if that’s the only downside – about time to bring it on!
Protect Our Young Women. Tell Them The HONEST Truth About Men.
Pass this on – or at least a version of it – to your teenage daughter.
